How I can help YOU
Many women end up mid-life on their own and worrying about money. It may be that they’ve never had to deal with it before – perhaps their previous partner always took control of the finances (just as mine did). It can be very daunting suddenly to be faced with piles of never-ending bills and no clue how to make ends meet.
Although my parents had four children in the 60’s and time were tough, I was fortunate. Both parents like security and worried about money – they saved hard and didn’t spend frivolously. Mum would say to me “Always have a few extra pence in case of emergencies and save your money”. One of my earliest childhood money memories is that of my uncle arriving every Saturday morning with a bag of sweets and ten pence for my younger brother and me. It was a real treat. I always enjoyed the sweets but I didn’t always spend the money right away – sometimes I would save it up and sometimes I would treat my mum with a cake or some flowers.
This gave me a good grounding in managing my own finances, so when I found myself alone with two children to support after my marriage break-up I was able to take back the reins and get myself organised and back on track again. It wasn’t easy, but, as the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger”.
It’s a fact that money can be the root of many disputes within partnerships, as everyone has a different view on how to spend it. You may want to spend, spend, spend and not think about the cost. Or you may be the opposite and count every penny, keeping a close eye in your income and expenditure. Trouble often brews when couples differ considerably in their views on how to manage the family income – and of course many couples argue about money both during their marriage/relationship and even more when they break up.
If you’ve been widowed, then not only have you to work through your grief, but you are also suddenly launched into a world of complicated financial issues to sort through, when you are at your lowest and most vulnerable. Whether you’ve been widowed, divorced, separated or your long-term partnership has ended, you are likely to go through all the stages of grief – shock, denial, anger, fear, anxiety, guilt and a feeling of not being able to cope on your own going forward.
For many facing these life-changing situation their biggest fear is MONEY – how do you rent or buy a property, pay all the bills, arrange child care, run a car and have a life when at this moment in time you can’t decide what to have for breakfast?
Loneliness after break up is especially hard – not simply because you’ve lost the the person you once shared your life with, but the loss of mutual friends, the lack of a soulmate, the realisation that no one has your back. You also don’t have that one person with whom to make those financial decisions.
When you are feeling emotional and vulnerable you could fall prey to unscrupulous people who may regard you as an easy touch. You may not be “street-wise”, leaving yourself open to tradespeople who will try to take advantage of your naivety. I remember being quoted between £2,000 and £9,000 for a bathroom of the same specification and a client of mine was quoted £10,000 for plastering and decorating her house, when she eventually got it done for £2,500!
Because I’ve built myself up to be a successful businesswoman by my own efforts and investments in myself, I am now in a position to help you too.
By booking a one-to-one confidential coaching course with me or attending one of my workshops with other women who are worried about their financial future, you can learn how to:
- prioritise your income
- make your money do what you want it to
- find the best career for you
- still have a work/life balance
- recognise what you can do for yourself and what you need others to do for you
- ask for help
- keep a record of your spending with or without spreadsheets
- work out a budget that you can keep to
- avoid getting into debt
- pay off existing debts
- invest in the right products
- have a secure financial future without worrying about money for the unexpected.
I set good sound strong intentions and focused on what I wanted. I don’t just mean monetary but the whole picture. I was still able to spend with my two children as they were growing up, at the same time developing my business, financial and marketing skills.
Having invested time well-spent in my own personal development, I can now offer you a myriad of tools, resources and techniques to help you if you find yourself alone and in a similar situation. I get a kick out of helping others achieve their goals and so I can also help you do the same, saving you time, money and heartache.
Working as Money Coach / Mentor, I combine powerful psycho dynamic tools with strong, practical financial skills to guide and create powerful transformations.
I want to encourage people to talk about money – to understand their own relationship with money and how it is playing in their personal and professional lives.
Get in touch with me here or book me for a free initial consultation. What have you got to lose?